HELp my son is white?

Hello, I am a black young man that was happily married to a white woman. However we have gotten a dirvorce,(due to her drinking and drug problem ) and now I have custody of my son. My son looks pure white, hair, eyes everything, and has no traces of black. I first really seriously doubted that he was my son, and thought she cheated on me. But I was wrong, and felt really bad. blood testes were positive i am him the father. What makes me mad is when people tell me he's not my son. I have been harass at the mall, and walmart twice, by a cop and a manager assuming that I was trying to kidnap him. I am regular black, however And it is so annoying when people just say oh, is that your friend son, or is he really your son? no way, hes not yours! I am so really hurt. I am only a 23 years old single parent, and look 19 at that. I was only only 17 when he was born. He is now 6, and I love him with all my heart, could not trade him for all the money in world

HELp my son is white?

Be courteous to those who are just curious, ignore the total idiots. Carry a short form birth certifiate in your wallet in case it is needed for a police officer who is really concrned. Have same situation in my family, except the parent is white and the child is black. You owe no one an exlanation. Just be as courteous as you can as an example to your son. He is a gorgeous child and very lucky to have such a loving daddy.

HELp my son is white?

I'm sorry for your dilemma, but what is your question?

People are going to act how they act. Interracial couples still get a raised eyebrow from some, it's not odd that a child who appears white might be questioned as your son. That's not real common (his appearance) in mixed-race relationships.

And if you are a black dude, why is your alias here "Jessica"?

HELp my son is white?

you are a man named jessica?

HELp my son is white?

Ur a man....But ur name is Jessica???

HELp my son is white?

aw cute kid

HELp my son is white?

He is a really cute little kid, I don't know what to tell you about people harassing you. I hope that things get better.

HELp my son is white?

That is terrible that in this day and age people dont believe you. They have no problem with a white woman carrying around a black baby do they?good luck being a daddy

HELp my son is white?

I really can't believe you are being harrassed by the police and if you are file a complaint. Next, why do you care what people say or think? They are ignorant for saying anything to you like that!! Be gracious, tell them you are so proud of him, and let him be proud of who he is and what he looks like. He may change as he grows up.

HELp my son is white?

Who cares what others think....he is your son and be happy with him. Screw everyone else that thinks differently. What I would do to avoid situations like Walmart, I would carry a copy of the birth certificate showing your the father. That way when you get questioned you got proof and ha to them. Good Luck!! I know its hard being a single parent.

HELp my son is white?

You're just going to have to ignore ignorant people. Because there's nothing you can change...

My mother had me when she was 43 and people always thought she was my grandmother. It made me so mad and sometimes embarassed. I had to learn to disregard what other people think...my mom may have been old but she didn't act like it.

HELp my son is white?

ya your right he does look like a white boy

who care what others think

you know that hes your son %26amp; thats all that matter

HELp my son is white?

dude live with it he your son

my dad is mexican and man i dont look mexican at all

1st of all am over 6ft lite skin and dont drink

i smoke 420 playball talk my ghetto

look like no one in my family tree

but you know what

He loves me and accept me the way i am and yes he is my real dad

HELp my son is white?

sorry dude, the world sucks in that way, people just don't understand or whatever. in the end, you don't have to prove anything to anyone, be a good role model for your son though, don't loose your temper in front of him, we all have our "crosses to bear" (not religious just like the analogy.)

HELp my son is white?

tell them yes i am his father. legally and biologically. If white people can have black children (by adoption) and not get harrassed, why cant a black man have a white son (by... some pigmentation thing) and not get harrassed? You dont need to explain yourself to anyone but the cops and when they ask, offer to take a paternity test.

HELp my son is white?

Its a simple fact of life that humans have recessive and dominant genes. All it takes is for one of those recessive genes to pop its little head out to take control. Kinda like having blue eyes versus brown eyes. Blue is recessive. It will be possible for him when he gets older and married with kids for them to be black, white and any shade there in between. Just a roll of the dice. Be thankful you have a healthy boy, no matter of color.

HELp my son is white?

Ahh, he is cute.

Just ignore people when they stare at you, it is your business not theirs.

If they make nasty comments tell them to grow up.

Have a happy life with your son.

HELp my son is white?

I'm sorry you ahve to deal with people ignorant like that.

best you can do is turn the other cheek and be the best father you can be. Just have faith and believe in yourself and you'll do great!

HELp my son is white?

The simpliest thing to do would have been to have a family portrait done before you were divorced to have in your wallet. Since that is no longer an option you might want to carry a picture of your ex to show cops when they harrass you. Have a picture taken with your son. Better yet the next time someone accuses you of kidnapping get a lawyer and file a defamation suit. Each time you are accused of kidnapping is a slander against your good name. Get and keep the name of a good lawyer on hand. When someone accuses you give them his card and tell them they can surely get this straightened out in court and this is your lawyers name

HELp my son is white?

He's a cute little boy but in order for people to see the difference between you and him you should include a picture of yourself.

HELp my son is white?

get over it. grow a thicker skin. this is a common prob with bi-racial kids/parents. he is your son. thats all that matters.

cheers!

HELp my son is white?

I kind of get the same thing, only the other way because my daughter is mixed and I am white (blond hair/blue eyes).

The most important thing you can do is to let your son know that you are proud of him and love him even though you look different. I often tell my daughter how her chocolate brown eyes remind me of my mother's eyes (my mother died when my daughter was a baby). Comment to your son how his eyebrows look like yours or his ears are shaped the same way.

Also, use this as an opportunity to let your son know that we don't all have to look alike to love each other. There are lots of people in the same boat you're in. Hang in there and don't think about what others say. Just keep standing up for your little man!!! :)

He's a doll! :) Good luck! :)

HELp my son is white?

You're just going to have to be strong about this issue, the public at large is as heartless as it is clueless. Start developing a 'thicker skin', not letting comments get to you.

People are sooo ignorant, it's a shame and a waste of human potential.

Heck with 'em. You know what's right. Model for your boy the strong, resistant behavior you want him developing against onslaughts of honor that'll one day come his way.

He's gorgeous! Absolutely cute as can be! He looks happy, bet you had a hand in that! Congratulations, pop, keep up the good work.

HELp my son is white?

My husband and i have a daughter, and she to also is very lights. I am white and he is black, she got his hair but her skin is as light as mine. People look twice and make comments from time to time, but that is just gonna happen. Think back to befor you had the baby, when you were with his mom did you get the same looks? I know that i did. But i had to learn to egnore the looks. It doesnt matter what anyone thinks, he is your son and you love him thats all they need to know. The rest is up to you to look past there looks and maybe even words. We have to much to worry about as parents to care what people think about something like that.

HELp my son is white?

Well i guess thats it then,as u said u love your son with all that u have,and he loves you dearly.If your son is so important to you and u love him truly the walmart and the cops should not bother u or upset you!!

you should not feel gulity and have doubts about him being your son.Now that ur are his father and have accepted him and love him so much,just stick around and give him a good life...time will pass and things will be better...good luck!!

HELp my son is white?

Can we assume he is more in focus in person?

Kidding.

Tell people to shitthehellup. It's not their business. And if it is a real problem, make sure both you and the kid have photo ID at all times, and maybe some snaps of you and the kid together to help "prove it," if it comes to that!

HELp my son is white?

First of all your son is adorable. And he does have characteristics of an African American. I am sure it is frustrating and makes you very mad when people say those things. Just don't let it bother you, your son is unique, very special, and there are believe it or not other white children born to African american's and vice-versa. It is ok that you aren't look alikes, you have an unbreakable bond and that's what makes a father and son. People are so judgemental and superficial, perhaps you could come up with a comeback of your own. Like is that really your _______? (Fill in the blank.) Have a happy day!

HELp my son is white?

I feel you I don't when racism is going to stop period. It's like a disease that doesn't go away.

As long as you love you son maybe you should start taking it as a joke.. instead of getting up.. and laugh it out..

I can't really suggest much because I'm not in that criteria but my daughter's look nothing like me and i get asked who's kids they are.. i am use to it already..

HELp my son is white?

Be sure to always bring with you some pictures of you and him when he was still a child, and better if the picture will include the mother. Bring some legal papers also that will prove that he is yours. For the people that stare, well, it's common for people to stare when they see something "odd". That's our nature. The reason is that our intellect is smaller than what God can design. So we stare. compared to a computer, they "hang" everytime their computation takes longer or worse can't compute.

Just forgive the people who do that to you. Later on, they will realize that they are mistaken for such.

HELp my son is white?

Okay, so your upset that people ASSUME things that they don't know about you? You don't have to explain anything! Even if you try to explain, people hear what they want. Why even give them the satisfaction in knowing they have offended you with their assumptions? All that matters is that you love your son, no matter what he looks like.

If you are being approached by a police officer, asking if this is your kid, I would get his name, badge #, and ask what precinct he works in...call and report this. Now of course, unless it looks like a child is being forced out of the store, or is crying, then the officer has a right to interject. There are alot of biracial families out there, I am sure people look, stare, point, whatever it is they do - WHO are they to think they are any better? What really defines a family? So stop worrying about what people think about you or your son, you love him, that's that.

HELp my son is white?

Cute son!

I know how hard that must be, but try not to let it bother you. You know he's your son and he knows your his dad, i see plenty of people who are black and have white children and white people who have black children. They're just idiots.

HELp my son is white?

LOL I'm sorry to say this, but that boy is 100% white. You need to get another DNA test. LOLOLOL